Hello lovely!
In this post, I will be further elaborating on why “being nice to others” will rarely result in being liked, respected, or cherished.
This post was inspired by one of my lovely students who asked this very question on one of our one on one calls.
So, let’s go to the core of the question: WHY do nice girls finish last?
As you ladies know, all of my teachings surround the basic principle of the law, being “your assumptions and beliefs dictate your reality“.
So, what does being nice have to do with this?
Many nice girls are being “nice” for the wrong reasons.
What does this mean?
It means that you feel that you need to overextend to be liked, change your true nature, take on the burdens of others and accept bad treatment… all while expecting that at some point your suffering will be rewarded.
But to those of you who read this and can relate: how is this working out for you?
Most of the time you are left feeling depleted, angry, and bitter.. only to keep doing the same thing over and over again.
Isn’t that the definition of insanity?
I have seen many women (myself included in the past) completely turn towards the opposite end of the coin in bitterness.
What happens in these cases is that women “act” emotionally cold, try out manipulation and seduction techniques, and all of that jazz.
But what they forget to understand is that “your inner thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions overrule any outward actions“.
Let me try to explain with some examples:
Example 1: the girl who overextends while being bitter will keep attracting situations in which she is taken for granted, over and over again.
This, as she deep down inside believes that she is not enough as she is, and can only succeed by doing MORE to overcompensate the inner lack of self-love.
These types of women I see very often attracting emotionally unavailable men. They keep encountering men who go hot and cold, are not consistent in their actions and generosity.
Example 2: The girl who tries to manipulate a man into loving her seductions techniques or extensive dating “rules” who deep down inside does not feel that her true self is worthy.
She believes that men are evil creatures that need to be seduced into doing what she wants.
In the end, she will get exactly what she believes to be true… all of the men she meets will be hard work, require extensive seduction and manipulation… only to be left tired and emotionally overworked in the process.
If you understand the ancient law that I teach, you will realize that the aforementioned women will never truly be happy.
They place their validation mostly in the hands of others instead of tuning within and knowing that they are enough, they feel they need to do extensive things to be “liked, cherished, generously spoiled and prioritized by all those surrounding you”...
In fact, the women going through the aforementioned examples might be the first to read this post and feel anger.
If this is you, I urge you to explore this feeling.
Does this post hit a nerve because you are tired of keeping up that facade?
Wouldn’t it feel better to truly accept yourself as you are and have others love you exactly for that?
Does this sound unbelievable to you? I urge you to check out my new free workshop where I explore this concept further.
Promise me that you will take time to reflect on this valuable ancient law.. does it apply to you?
And, what if you could change things around for the better?
It will all be explained in the first few minutes of the workshop.
And if you have any comments, feel free to let me know your thoughts!
Until next time.
xo Alexis
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