After several requests, I was prompted to write an article on manifesting a husband or life partner.
Of course, a Glamifesting diva does not want just ANY husband or life partner.
I focus on getting my clients energetically aligned with their Mr. Perfect(s), in fact I dedicate one full chapter of my online course on “How to manifest your Mr. Perfect“.
Who is your Mr. Perfect?
Well, your Mr. Perfect is the man of your dreams!
The man of your dreams is not what you think you can get, given the “man market” conditions.
Your Mr. Perfect is the whole shebang.
The biggest problem I see with the women that come to me for help, is that they spend a significant time discussing, analysing the odds of finding their dream partner.
They tell me: Lexi, I live in a city where all the men are either married or gay!
I know first hand how that feels, as I decided to move from a vibrant metropolitan city in Asia to a small island in the caribbean with a population of 160,000 (what are my odds there, lol).
In fact, many of the women on my lovely island complain about the lack of men.
Many go as far as to assume that their only chance is to become a mistress to a married man (ouch).
But, being a coach that practices what she preaches; I was able to meet my dream partner in little over a month with minimum effort (on said tiny island).
I can already hear you saying: But Alexis, you are different!
This is where you are wrong.
We all have the same power within us to be so magnetically irresistible, that your Mr. Perfect(s) literally come out of the woodwork to find you!
But how to manifest this?
I will give you my best kept secrets in this department… are you ready?
1. Understand your Desires
Unlike what many people think, our desires are an indicator of what is possible for you.
Therefore, if you are currently dating and desiring exclusivity of a certain type of man; do not feel ashamed of it!
The mere fact that you have this deep desire, is because it already is aligned for you to experience.
Start right now by understanding that: your desire is there for you to experience!
All that is left is for you to do the inner work to unblock the current blockages that are stopping you from experiencing this desire.
2. Let Go of Guilt
As I explained in the previous paragraph, most women I work with are secretly ashamed of their desires.
They try to act aloof, as if they do not want a relationship… while that is exactly what they WANT.
So, I ask you to DROP THE SHAME surrounding your desires.
This shame is actually working against your desire being manifested into your reality!
Right now, I want you to OWN your desires… not run away from them.
And no, this does not mean that you are going to run around telling every man on your roster that you desire marriage or exclusivity.
I want you to accept your desire INWARDLY – for you, not others.
A Glamifest diva does not demand or coerce, she effortlessly attracts.
3. Stop Looking at Statistics
I can’t stress on this enough!
I have had clients that wanted to spend time convincing me of their country (city or state) statistics, how many men are married and the ratio of men to women.
All that you are doing is: working against your desires.
By focussing on all of the reasons why you CANNOT manifest your Mr. Perfect, you are actually pushing him away from manifesting in your reality.
So right now, drop the need to validate your lacking of a relationship based on statistics (like yesterday!).
Also, avoid discussing this with your girlfriends, friends and family members.
When the topic is brought up, simply smile and change the subject.
4. Stop Self Sabotage
Many women making their Mr. Perfect list actually make a list that is NOT based on their desires.
They make a long list of physical attributes and strange requirements, which they secretly add just to convince themselves that he is not attainable.
This, so that they can feel “okay” about not manifesting him.
In my second chapter of the Glamifest Mental Bootcamp program, I spend a significant amount of time explaining why focusing the individual attributes are not important.
Attributes are actually distracting, as we usually do not even know what it is we want!
How many times have you heard a married woman say “At first I thought he was not my type, but I fell head over heels”?
What is more important is the STATE that this person makes you feel.
And for those that thing that your higher self wants you to marry a dusty, this is not true.
If you DESIRE a dust free relationship, this is on your path (see point 1 above).
The fear of ending up with a low value man will actually bring about more low value men.
5. Access the State, sis!
One of the most important parts to manifesting your Mr. Perfect is to focus on HOW HE MAKES YOU FEEL.
Louder for those in the back, please!
Focusing on the list of attributes is not the way to go.
This only distracts from what is truly important: “Feeling is the Secret”.
Rather, spend time tapping into the feeling this man gives you.
Example: He makes you feel protected, loved, cherished, appreciated etc…
Why is this important?
Accessing the state of the feeling is important to draw this experience in your life.
Now, some of you might have a hard time accessing the state.
The most frequently asked question after this is usually:
“How am I supposed to access the state if I am surrounded by F*ççboys, Lexi?”
The first step is to master your mental diet.
If you have no idea what this is, head over here to receive a FREE download of an audiobook explaining the mental diet process.
My version of the mental diet is actually called the “Glamifest Diet”, which is detailed in my online course; but this audio book is a perfect place to get started.
Secondly, you can sign up for this FREE 7 day mental diet email course, where I will be emailing you each day with a challenge.
Ladies, repeat after me: My desires are meant to be experiences and I am ready for them!
Taking these steps will certainly help you start the process of bringing your hunky Mr. Perfect into your reality.
Light and love,
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Also, if you want to start your journey, take a look at my latest online course called “Glamifest Mental Bootcamp“.
What do you think?