Overcoming Loneliness

Hello again lovely.

If you clicked on this article, you might be battling feelings of loneliness.

In this article I hope to give you insight on how to overcome this feeling of being alone.

One of my favorite writers and philosopher, J Krishnamurti cleverly wrote “What is important is not to overcome loneliness but to understand it; and we cannot understand it if we do not face it, if we do not look at it directly, if we are continually running away from it“.

Many those battling this feeling try hard to push it away, on the backburner…

They keep their mind busy by scrolling instagram, binge-watching Netflix or tiktok and keeping busy in many Facebook groups.

Some go as far as to partake in drugs, sex, self mutilation and the excessive use of alcohol to forget.

Many seek a relationship in the hope that this will cure the loneliness once and for all, only to fid that they feel even more “alone” and frustrated in a relationship.

So, the first step in overcoming loneliness is to create awareness surrounding the distractions you use to numb yourself from confronting this “feeling” or “realization” you are trying to avoid.

Instead of shying away from this so called “loneliness”, take a few moments to direct all of your attention towards this so called “issue”.

By doing so, you might finally see how all of these former activities were merely tools for you to distract yourself from facing it, which indirectly is causing you more emotional suffering.

Now that we have your attention fully on the topic of your “loneliness”, ask yourself this:

What were the times where you felt most alone?

Try to go back to these moments.

If you become emotional, this is okay.. just take a deep breathe and take a moment to face this emotion.

Now my second question to you is: where were your thoughts when you were the happiest?

Most people answering this question realize that loneliness is a result of a group of thoughts that describe an “emptiness”.

Yes, the feelings of loneliness starts when our thoughts take over our mind.

Even when we are sedated by the aforementioned activities, these thoughts and the feelings that follow are still going on in the back of our mind.

That is why you feel lonely even when you THINK you are safely distracted.

That is why this painful feeling only seems to grow, no matter how much you try to avoid it.

Do not let fear of loneliness hypnotize you into living with this affliction, there is a way out!

Understanding that the idea of loneliness is simply a word that you use to describe an emotion that is activated by rampant thoughts is the first step towards healing.

In future posts I will discuss how you can start the process of taming your mind once and for all.

To access your inner power and let go of that negative voice that causes so many of us to live lives filled with fear, anxiety and worry.

Remember: you got this!

Sending you light and love,

Alexis

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Also, if you want to start your self love journey, take a look at my latest online course called “Glamifest Mental Bootcamp“.